I went for a "quick" walk around the block the other night. Brien was working on dinner (hot dogs) and watching the baby so I could have a few minutes alone (with the dog). I ended up stopping at a friend's house where they had just barely returned from Utah after having their baby 3 days earlier. I then also stopped at another friend's house because she happened to be outside and calling out, "Hello," turned into a 15 minute conversation. The 8 minute walk turned into 30 minutes and I returned home to find my husband had already eaten and was now feeding the baby. I wasn't bothered that he ate without me. I had to hold back that he was feeding Zarina a meal. She had already had all her meals for the day, it was actually close to the time for her to nurse before she went to bed. Really, it came down to the fact that she was hungry, Brien recognized that, and he fed her food. He actually fed her lots of food. As he listed her meal all I could think was, "She's not going to nurse well this evening. I may have to pump." In the end, she nursed well enough that I didn't have to pump. Brien didn't do anything wrong. The situation was more about me realizing that variances in Zarina's schedule are fine. When you're with a baby all day it's easy to become a control freak.
I'm grateful to have a sweet husband who helps at home and takes an active interest in our child. I'm trying to be more relaxed when it comes to her schedule. As long as we have a happy, healthy little girl I need to not sweat the small stuff. This little situation was a good chance for me to take a breath and remember what matters.
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I know exactly what you're saying! It is really hard not to want to be in control of everything with the schedule. It's hard when you pretty much have down when your baby should be eating, sleeping, etc. and then someone else tries to do it differently. (even if it is the father of your child!) It's nice that you were able to go out and spend some time alone though, that's always relaxing for me. Also, I got my blog background from
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Enjoy that he is feeding, helping whatever. They start to think that you are always there and that they "the husband" are ok to not help. I know there has been times that I have been gone and come home and asked if the kids have eaten. I get the "Nope", I thought you were going to feed them when you got home.
See you next week :)
Amen! I think MANY mommies are prone to this...At least I'm doing better than when I first started this whole mommyhood business! Good job recognizing it.:0)
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